Is Your Ambition Actually Sabotaging Your Dream?
Confidence and ambition are crucial for chasing a dream. But at a certain point, could they actually be holding you back?
We've talked many times about the importance of your team and the people you surround yourself as you reach for goals.
It comes down to CALLING OUT GOLD. Leaders see the potential of those around them and invite them to partner in their endeavors, or encourage them to take off on an adventure of their own.
What happens when a leader fails to do this? And where does it come from? It can flesh out in many ways.
Maybe a person is incapable of asking for help. As they work on a project, they come across something they need a different perspective on, a hand in completing, or a contact to get exposure. If they're unable to ask for help in this way, then their project probably falls through, or at least, it isn't as good as it could have been.
Maybe a person is incapable of saying no. They have countless responsibilities already but they take on another and all of a sudden they're doing many things, but none of them well.
Maybe a person is unable to take criticism or direction. They could be doing something better or more effectively, but when someone tries to point this out, they shut them down. So they continue on in a less than satisfactory manner.
When written plainly, these issues seem like no-brainers. Most would say to ask for help, say no, or be teachable. But we all do this so often, some of us more than others. Why?
Pride. None of us want to be wrong. We want to be able to do something simply because we're good at it. And we want to be the best at everything!
These ambitions aren't inherently wrong, but the fact is, they're not reality. It's perfectly fine to strive for perfection and independence, but to live in them as reality, is destructive.
I'm not a psychologist, nor am I an expert on pride. I can't tell you what to do if you're stuck in this problem of pride. But I offer a challenge.
The thing with examining pride is it asks us to take a close look at ourselves. I'm sure you can immediately think of someone else who needs to "work on" their pride. But this isn't about someone else. This is about you.
Is your pride holding you back? Does it keep you from making connections? Does it keep you busy? Does it keep you from doing the best possible work?
Distinguishing pride and taking steps to overcome it is pretty simple, but it's hard. What can you do this week to push through it?
Maybe you ask for help on a project. Maybe you say no when project number 52 comes your way but you know you don't have time for it. Maybe you let someone give you a few pointers.
We all have our own strengths and capabilities. We simply cannot have it all. What we can do is assemble a team of people around us who can make up for that which we lack.
First step: acknowledge pride. Second step: make purposeful choices to act against your pride.
It'll be uncomfortable, but no one ever got stronger sipping martinis by the beach.